I hear about it so often. The question may not be asked directly to me. It might be asked in a group discussion, asked in general conversation or I might see it as a comment on a social media post.
“How and when do you have time to do…..?” and then whatever activity it might be. Writing, working, cooking, laundry, quality family time, etc
I can see how sometimes it is just a general query and asked out of curiosity. Other times it seems to be asked with an expectation attached. There is a sense that people feel they are not meeting certain expectations. People want to know what they are doing wrong and why it seems as if everyone else is soaring ahead and succeeding yet, they somehow seem to be left behind. They think they must be doing something wrong. But, let me remind you that your life is not like his or hers, and ya know what? It is not supposed to be.
We’re each given our own gifts and talents, challenges and struggles, family and friends. We all have our own personality, dreams and desires, and these things come together to make our life unique. God created you with a specific purpose for your life that is not meant to be measured against someone else. Your life is unique and individual to who you are through Christ.
In Psalm 62:5 it says “My soul, wait silently for God alone, For my expectation is from Him”(NKJV). This expectation is also translated as hope. For my hope is from Him. My hope for my future is from God.
We were not designed to be seeking expectation from those around us. We are designed to seek our expectation and hope from God because, unless we seek what God wants us to do first and then obey, we will only be disappointed with the result. You will never feel like you are truly living the authentic life that you were created for. With expectation, there has to be a goal to work towards. A result. An outcome. An endpoint. But, if our expectation is doing what someone else is created to do then how will we know what the end goal is or if God wants you to change tactics? Will we even be satisfied with the outcome because it was not ours to reach in the first place?
Seeking your expectations from God and waiting patiently for Him to speak means that our heart is in the right place to succeed and move forward towards the goal.
Just like many of these expectation seeking people, I have been in that exact same position, more times than I can count, asking people what to do, how to do it, for how long and what the results should look like. I’ve done this in many areas of my life. Bible studies, university, jobs, serving in church and everyday life. However, there comes a time in our Christian walk that we need to realise that God has given us the grace we need to live the life we have. In 2 Corinthians 12:9 it tells us that God’s grace is all you need.
Asking questions out of curiosity about how people do things is great. Yet, not at the expense of getting your expectations from other people and feeling the need to live your life the same as them in order to live up to these expectations. I would encourage you to take a step back and press into God if this is where you have found yourself to be at either consciously or unconsciously.
Take some time to consider where you are seeking your expectation. Because God’s expectation is the only place where you will be able to live authentically and succeed. He gives you the grace to be able to do so.